Dad in the Mirror is the true story of Olatunji Fagbore and his father, Victor — including the sudden loss that nearly cost him the chance to say it at all. If you've been asking yourself whether it's too late to fix things with your father, or to say what you've never said, this book was written for exactly that question.
It's also more than one man's story: each Mirror Lesson draws on original research and real accounts gathered from both men and women about their own journeys with their fathers, so the reflections hold up beyond a single household.
"Hearts are often broken by words left unspoken." — epigraph, Chapter 17

Before readers find this book, most of them have already asked some version of this — alone, and usually more than once.
This book doesn't answer the question with a slogan. It answers it with what actually happened when the author ran out of time to ask it himself — and what he'd tell you to do while you still have time.
Estrangement from fathers, and regret over words never said, are two of the most consistently documented patterns in family research.
Reconciliation doesn't look the same for everyone. Here's how readers usually arrive.
This book won't tell you what to do — it'll show you what one real attempt looked like, mistakes included.
Contact isn't the same as closure. The Mirror Lessons in Part IV are built for exactly this.
This is the author's own story. He didn't get the warning he thought he'd get.
Dad in the Mirror follows the real arc of a father-son relationship, from struggle to reckoning to the moment it almost became too late.
The man behind the myth.
Inherited patterns, distance, and the years of drift that followed.
A sudden, unexpected loss; the regret of love not expressed; and the decision to say the unsaid things before it's too late again.
Becoming the next father in line.
This is the exercise at the center of Part IV — the one the author wishes he'd done sooner. Get the guided version, plus the opening chapter, free.
Real stories from fathers, mothers, sons and daughters around the world, gathered as part of the original research behind this book.
"Children can't be what they can't see."
— Isaac Oladipupo"Fathers should embrace love, not just provisioning."
— Morunfoluwa Fagbore"My dad taught me everything I know, but he didn't teach me everything he knows."
— Adebola KoyaEvery format includes the full 20-chapter story and Mirror Lessons. Buying it for someone else? The bundle includes a companion journal, so the letter actually gets written.
Available now on Amazon (USA · UK · Canada · Germany) and, in Nigeria, through Selar.
A printable card deck for sons and daughters who want a closer relationship with their father — not just a broken one to fix. Shuffle, draw a card, read the question out loud.

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