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Frequently Asked Questions

Everything, answered in one place.

The book, the card games, the Companion tools, sponsorship, and privacy — twenty questions readers ask most.

The book

Reading, reconciling, and who it's for.

Is it too late to reconcile with my father?

Research on estrangement suggests most ruptures with fathers are not permanent — the majority see some form of repair eventually. This book doesn't promise a guaranteed outcome, but it follows one real reconciliation from the inside, including the moment it almost became too late.

What if my father has already passed away — is this book still for me?

Yes. A central part of the book deals directly with the sudden loss of the author's father and the words he never got to say. Many readers who've lost a father read it to process exactly that regret, and decide what to do with it going forward.

What if my father doesn't want to reconcile?

This book focuses on what you can control — understanding the relationship honestly and saying what you need to say, regardless of how it's received. Several Mirror Lessons address reconciliation you can't force, and the peace you can still find without it.

Is this a self-help book or a memoir?

Both. It's creative non-fiction built on real events, with each chapter closing in a Mirror Lesson — a short, actionable reflection you can journal and apply immediately.

Is Dad in the Mirror based on a true story?

Yes, with some composite scenarios. It's a work of creative non-fiction combining real events from the author's own life with experiences observed from anonymous volunteers, and some created scenarios, grounded in real research on fatherhood and estrangement.

Is there an audiobook?

Not yet — it's in production. Get notified the moment it's ready.

Can therapists or counselors use this book professionally?

Yes. Therapists and counselors use the Mirror Lessons and the Father & Child Workbook as structured, between-session prompts for clients working through family-of-origin material.

Formats & the Companion tools

What to buy, and what's actually different.

What countries can I buy the book in?

Amazon carries the ebook and paperback in the US, UK, Canada, Australia, Ireland, Germany, France, Belgium, the Netherlands, Italy, Spain, Sweden, Poland and Japan. In Nigeria, it's available through Selar and Rovingheights.

What's the difference between the Ebook, Paperback and Companion Bundle?

The Ebook is the full 20-chapter story on any device. The Paperback is the same story in print, ready to gift. The Companion Bundle adds the reflection tools — the Companion Workbook and Companion Worksheet — for anyone who wants to actually write things down, not just read them.

What format should I buy as a gift?

The paperback + companion journal bundle is built for gifting — it gives the reader somewhere to actually write the letter, not just a book to shelve.

What's the difference between the Companion Worksheet and the Companion Workbook?

The Companion Worksheet is for reading alone — one tab per part of the book, plus running logs for Mirror Lessons, Conversations and Legacy. The Companion Workbook is the 36-prompt Father & Child Edition, built for two people to answer separately and read aloud together.

Is the Father & Child Workbook free?

Yes — the 12-prompt edition is free to download, no card required. The full 36-prompt Edition (the Companion Workbook) is the paid upgrade for anyone who wants to go further.

The Say It Now card games

Grow Together, Healing the Distance, and the free preview.

What are the Say It Now card games?

Say It Now is a series of 50-card conversation decks built from the same four-stage framework as the book — draw a card, ask it out loud, no reading required first. There are two decks: Grow Together and Healing the Distance.

Which card game should I start with — Grow Together or Healing the Distance?

If you're not currently estranged or avoiding each other, start with Grow Together. If there's real distance — you don't talk, or talking feels tense — start with Healing the Distance instead. Nothing stops you from getting both.

When will the card game pre-orders ship?

Pre-orders haven't opened yet. Joining the waitlist locks in the current price and gets you early access the moment it's ready — you'll be emailed as soon as pre-orders open.

Can I play Know Each Other without buying anything?

Yes. It's a free, no-signup swipe preview — fifteen real cards from the Grow Together deck, swipe right to see the next one, no email or names required.

Sponsorship, reviews & privacy

Giving back, sharing your story, and your data.

How do I sponsor copies for a school or NGO?

Visit the Donate / Sponsor page, choose how many copies you'd like to fund, and submit your details — the team will follow up directly to confirm pricing and delivery.

Can I sponsor copies from outside Nigeria?

Yes — most sponsors give from abroad. Diaspora donors, corporate CSR teams and individual readers all sponsor copies for schools and NGOs in Nigeria from wherever they are.

Can I leave a review or share my own story?

Yes — visit Leave a Review. With your permission, we may feature it on the Testimonials page.

Is my information kept private?

Yes. Information submitted through any form on this site — donation, review, contact, or lead capture — is used only to respond to your request. We don't sell or share it with third parties.

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